Serenidy's Child Abuse Story

Serenidy from the United States writes: I'm a 16 year old girl, who went through a lot as a younger child. I just thought it was me being a bad kid getting spanked. I thought every kid went through it. No one else in my family was getting it as bad as I was. So I went on thinking I was just a bad kid. It was until one day when I was in 7th grade that I came home with good news, I had made the dance team. When I told him, he told me to go to my room for having an attitude. So rather than fighting I went down and slammed my door shut. I was upset that he didn't seem to care. I was thinking about how upset I was when my door was pushed open and I looked up to find my dad standing there with a mad look on his face. I tried to run, and only made it into the hallway.He had grabbed the strings to my sweatshirt and pulled them so I couldn't breath. I didn't understand why this was happening to me. So them my older brother stopped him and pulled me into his room and went out to talk with my dad. My dad then left for the night and I was alone with my brother feeling very hurt. All I can remember thinking is "Why is he doing this to me, I don't do anything wrong. I know I'm not perfect, but I'm not a bad person." My brother told me to go to my room and I would be fine. He wasn't going to do it again. Well he was wrong. A couple years later, my dad got mad at me for something, so I started running for the door. I got into my car and locked the doors. My dad was yelling at me to come out. So he went back inside and grabbed my car keys and pulled me out. He dragged me back inside and pushed me on the floor, and yelled. At this point I wanted him to die. Now he thinks everything is fine and I forgot all about it. But that childhood is one that I wont forget, and I don't think I can ever forgive him for what he had done to me.

As I have mentioned before, forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do when you have been hurt deeply by someone, especially by a parent. In Serenidy's case she felt like she was doing something wrong and that she was a bad kid. However, it was her father who had difficulty controlling his anger and sharing his child's joy.

It's easy to take on a parent's insecurity and place it on yourself. However, do grow from your parent's insecurities instead of making them your own.

Serenidy, thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate your willingness to open up and help others.

With Love,

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Comments:

I don't think you ever have to forgive your dad he was very mean to you!!!! I'm 18 and my parents did a lot of bad things to when I was younger and I am feeling the same pain as you are...when I was 8 I was raped by my cousin and he told me not to tell and my brother saved me because he told my dad about it and my dad suprisingly belived me and my brother!!! I wish the best for you.

Amber

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