rochelle, 28, phils

by rochelle
(phils)

I don’t know if it’s actually a friendship problem, for I think the problem is not really between us... I guess the problem is just with me. It’s because whenever my best friend get too close with a new friend and begin spending so much time with that new friend, I get too jealous. I don’t get jealous when she forms new friendships with a group. In fact, I find it to be fun and enjoyable, and I truly feel happy when I see that she’s happy being with them. But when she gets too close and intimate with one particular friend, I couldn’t help to feel so jealous. I always react in ways not violent, but through manipulation and guilt, until she finally cuts off her ties with that new friend… a kind of battle in which I always win.

I always fear that if their closeness continues, she may come to take me for granted at first and eventually, might forget me. I’m afraid the new bond they’re forming might be stronger than ours and that new friend will replaced me in my best friend’s heart, and that I might lose her and her friendship which is my greatest fear.

My best friend is the very best friend I’ve ever had in all of my life. She always makes me feel very important, special and loved. We share such a very special friendship that we’re almost like sisters, or twins… we even call each other soul mates sometimes. Our friendship is not perfect, but it’s definitely the kind of friendship one would wish for to have for the rest of her life. Maybe that’s why I feel so insecure at times, and afraid that somebody might stole her from me.

Please give me some advice or thoughts to ponder on regarding this. Thank you.

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