Is physical abuse affecting you and the loved ones in your life?

1. Abuse of the self:

Physically abusing oneself includes self-mutilation, starving yourself, throwing food up intentionally, fighting others just for the fun of it, and anything else done to oneself that is physically harmful.

2. Abuse on another:
Physically abusing another is.... hitting, punching, stabbing, pinching, slapping, pulling hair, throwing something, and anything else that causes physical harm to another being (animals, humans, etc.).

Many people lack the awareness that when you physically abuse another, you're abusing yourself. For instance, if you allow another to physically harm you in any way, more likely than not, you're already harming yourself on a daily basis with your negative and destructive words, thoughts, and beliefs.

Physically abusing yourself or others has a variety of reasons.

• You were abused during childhood.


• You didn't have any positive role models in your life.


• You believe that being abused is okay and that it's the "norm."


• You believe that abusing someone is a form of "getting one's way" or getting the attention you need.


• You haven't learned how to create healthy relationships with others.


• You have low self-respect, self-esteem, lack healthy communication skills, and you're not aware that you're inflicting harm on yourself and others.

• You continue the abuse cycle.


• You continue to not be a positive role model to the loved ones in your life.


• You continue with the thought that abuse is okay.


• You continue to get your way when acting abusively to others.


• You continue to develop unhealthy relationships.


• You continue to disrespect yourself because you lack the communication skills needed in order to build better relations with others.


• You continue to lack the awareness of how your actions are affecting the self and others.

You deserve a loving, healthy relationship with yourself. The longer you inflict abuse on yourself, the longer you will suffer.

If you allow yourself to continue being abused, you are communicating to others that it's okay to treat you bad. The best thing you can do for yourself and the other is to stop the abuse. It is not "loving" behavior to allow the abuse to continue.