A Making Love Tip:
Ladies learn how to really enjoy sex, and men learn how to understand the women in your life who are not enjoying sex

Here is a making love tip for those women out there....You deserve to enjoy sex! Unfortunately, many women dislike love making or "having sex," which can frustrate their partner.

So why is that?

Well, there are children to raise, meals to prepare, that incredible headache that just won't go away, and just the feeling of being way to tired (along with many other excuses.) This is when sex typically becomes the last priority for a woman.

Because sex is a very important component to a healthy relationship, I am here to help the women who have given up on trying to enjoy sex (and don't worry men, you will get some information out of this too!)

So, stop the pretending girls and start enjoying sex. No more fake orgasms for you.

Why do some women pretend when making love?

Well, simply put, she is unaware of what gives her pleasure, she is too embarrassed to satisfy herself, she is uncomfortable with her body image, the relationship is struggling outside of sex, or she just doesn't want to have sex.

And just for some empathy for the men... Women listen to this song from the Rolling Stones titled, "Beast of Burden." This song gives a good idea of how a man feels when you don't really enjoy sex!

So, let's look at the common reasons why women don't enjoy sex shall we....

• Making Love Tip #1: She is unaware of what gives her pleasure.
  

  Women... What type of position do you like during sex? What part of your body do you enjoy being touched the most? What part do you dislike being touched the most? How long can you last during sex? Do you know where the "Yes, right there" parts are on your body?

  These questions are important for your enjoyment and pleasure of making love.

  If you don't know the answers to these questions then you and your lover are playing a guessing game. Who knows how long it will take until your partner "finally" gets it.

  Why wait that long? Take action and start pleasing yourself.


• Making Love Tip #2: She is too embarrassed to pleasure herself.
  

  Yes, girls I am talking about masturbation. Don't be shy, there is nothing wrong with this.

  Masturbating is a way to find out what pleases you. It is a way to explore yourself and become in touch with your body, literally!

  Once you become comfortable with masturbating I recommend that you take this into the bedroom with your significant other.

  Why? Good Question..

  The part of a woman's body that brings her most pleasure is the clitoris. This part of the body is hard to stimulate during intercourse, which leaves a woman feeling less satisfied.

  When you are comfortable with masturbation, you can pleasure yourself while having intercourse. I guarantee that this will give you the pleasure you are looking for.

  Are you wondering what your significant other will think?

  Don't worry! All your significant other wants is for you to be pleased and to enjoy sex as much as they are.

  Watching you please yourself is pleasing to them.

  Do you have questions about this tip? Or maybe you have other relevant masturbation questions. If so, click here for further answers.

• Making Love Tip #3: She is uncomfortable with her body image.
  

  This is probably the most common issue I hear from women.

  Some women don't want to take their clothes off with the light on because they are ashamed of their bodies. Or she doesn't want to be touched because of the "fat rolls" on her stomach.

  Being insecure about your body, regardless of your weight or appearance, is the most unattractive quality to have during sex. This takes the pleasure, spontaneity, enjoyment, and passion out of making love and creates the boredom, unfulfillment, and dissatisfaction you are experiencing.

  The article,What's Weight Got to Do With It, teaches you how to enjoy sex if you are overweight. It offers valuable tips to improve the perception of your body image.


• Tip #4: The relationship "outside of sex" is struggling!
  

  This is typical! If you and your partner are not communicating (i.e. yelling, downgrading, avoiding), chances are sex will not be that great (or at least the woman will give in just to "shut the man up").

  A woman needs communication and respect outside of love making. If she does not have this, she will not enjoy sex that much. This is also true for a man! A man needs to feel valued, loved, and respected just as much as a woman does.

  So, my making love tip for the women out there..let your partner know when they have hurt you. And to the men out there, if your partner is not enjoying sex talk to her to figure out why!


• Making Love Tip #5: She is just not in the mood.
  

  No matter what a man might try, a woman just might not want to have sex, plain and simple. There may be many "personal" reasons why she doesn't want to have sex, but sometimes it's just because she isn't in the mood.

  However, what often happens is a woman will give in to their partner's "cries" and try to get it over with as soon as possible. So, she might just lay there faking it hoping that her "moaning" will get it over with faster.

  Men, when your women are not in the mood even after attempts of foreplay, she is just not going to be in the mood. However, if this is the case more often than not, look at the above examples for other possible reasons for why she may not be interested.


• Making Love Tip #6: She is bored!
  

  Men....It's important to surprise your woman with different positions, different environments, and most importantly, surprise your woman with confidence! Confidence can make or break boredom in the bedroom. When the man is confident in the bedroom (in a humbling, non-arrogant sort of way), he will take the time to please her, which in the long run, will be pleasing for the both of you.

  It's so easy to get into a routine when you and your mate are having sex. However, trying new things and becoming confident within yourself tells your woman that you admire her and that you want to please her; that in turn, will be enough to take her breath away and make her feel like a "giddy virgin all over again ;)"

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