Karachi's Child Abuse Story

Karachi from the Bangladesh writes: I have today found courage to write what happened to me in my early life. My neighbor sexually molested me when I was 5 and he did it by calling me to his home. This incident still remains with me as a flashback in my memory as I still sometimes recall the pain and suffering I had to suffer while he used me for his sexual pleasure. The next incident happened in my school when I was in 8th grade; my sports teacher molested me after the game practice. Both the incidents are always fresh in my memory and haunt me till today. Due to the sufferings caused, I sometimes become very short tempered and these are incidents that I cannot share with my wife. I have 2 children and I am always afraid that something might happen if we leave them alone at home.

Hello Karachi,

Thank you for taking the time to share your story. It sounds to me that you’ve kept this in for a very long time, which is the reason it’s always fresh on your mind and the reason for your irritability. I do understand the difficulty you have in sharing this with your wife; however, these incidents do need to be ventilated somehow, other than here.

It will take a while to heal from these sexual abuse incidents; however, I do want you to know that what occurred was against your will and not your fault. I have found with many of my male clients, who have been sexually abused by the same sex, often question their sexuality; and they also find themselves having difficulty sharing their story with others because they are usually embarrassed about the occurrences. So, to ease your mind, if this is occurring for you, these feelings are normal!

If you are having flashbacks about the incidents, having difficulty sleeping due to nightmares, struggling sexually with your wife (i.e., the sexual act reminds you of the abuse), find yourself avoiding discussing the incidents, having difficulty concentrating, feeling detached from others, and are having consistent memories about the incidents (which you stated it’s constantly on your mind), you may be struggling with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).. (it’s what many Soldiers suffer from when they return back from a war).

Not knowing your cultural views and beliefs about therapy, I recommend that you do seek someone whom you trust to speak about these incidents. I also recommend that you journal and read material about overcoming child abuse effects. I’m in the process of writing a free e-book about this now; you can find the information here.

My heart goes out to you and your past. However, you can overcome those painful memories and regain your freedom! As a matter of fact, you have already made a great start by reaching out to others through your story!

With Love,

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