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Dec 20, 2011

It will be ok
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Hey Jess, I have thought about how to write a message that gave you a positive and uplifting feeling after reading it, so I guess I will just start with saying that I was also abused in the same way as you and so much of your story is similar to mine. It is awesome that you want to "let out" and tell your story. I think that each time it is shared you heal that little but more. I really hope that oneday you will come out of this and be stronger as a result of it. I know it is hard to trust people especially men after going through events that you have as a child, but what you have to understand is that not everything or everyone in this world is bad. There are so many good people and you are one of them. Your step brother was the one in the wrong not you so dont go thinking that it was your fault. When I told my mum a couple of years ago she cried and cried, just like yours, but since then we havent talked at all. I think that it is not the worst thing though, as I am able to recieve help and advice on a website called www.pointswithpurpose.com. I think that you should check it out. It was really helpful for my healing, a way to make friends with others who have been thru similar things and know that you are not alone in this. Im called Leasha (which is my name on that website)so if you ever want to talk then sign up and just send me a note or comment. (I understand though if you aren't comfortable signing up and thats ok as well)
Good luck with everything
Leasha 18yrs

Dec 01, 2011

He will understand
by: Justin

Hey there Jess, you probaly heard this line quite abit but I truly mean it when I say I'm sry for what happend to you. I can not speak to you as if I have experience in this area, but I can speak on behalf of your boyfriend if he's mr. right. If he is I think he will wait for you to become one with your past. The best peice of advice I can give you is don't hate your past or the people who have hurt your. If you never forgive them or except you past you will never have peace in your mind, or your heart. So embrace your story, and remember the story isn't over yet and you are the only one who can make you have a happy ever after.

Well said Justin!!! My best, Brandy

Nov 18, 2011

You're not alone.
by: Teddy

Don't apologize for writing a long story. I know how damaging abuse can be. I've been there myself. But it's better to talk about it, than to keep it inside. I think you should tell ur boyfriend when u feel comfortable. If he loves u enough, he'll understand why ur uneasy about being touched and he'll wait till u feel comfortable taking the relationship to the next level. I hope u don't blame urself for what ur stepbrother did to u. It's not ur fault. It's his and possibly ur guardians for not being there for u and ur stepsister. My thoughts and prayers are with u. Stay strong and know, while u'll probably never forget such a traumatic event, but u will heal over time and learn to cope. God bless.

Dec 05, 2010

so sorry
by: lilly 12,usa

its okay if you took ur time thats a good thing!!iam 12 years old and iam so sorry about what u have been through and iam happy that you have been felling better and trying to forgetting it.i feel you should never let your brother near u again.

Apr 07, 2010

b strong
by: whitney elizabeth

first off u dnt need to blame ur slf fur sumthing u cudnt prevent im glad u wrote ur story becuz evry1 has to tlk about things if u keep it all in sooner or latr ur just going to explode tht boy was a wackoo and i hope ull nvr see him again im gonna pray fur u becuz child abuse is a hurtful thing my mothr had been abused wen she was a child and its not the most pleasent thing i tlkd to her yesterday bout it and she was so hurt sh cuudnt say anyting im so glad u opened up and became a strongr person u just hve to keep growing and evrydy just think i am me and it doesnt mattr were ive been it only mattrs where im goin! u r nun of tose things tht u said u were and i hope tht jesus will lead u too the right place jesus loves u! plus evry1 gets a secund chance i just hope u use it for the best! guud luck:)

Feb 23, 2010

don`t let nobody bri9ng you down i am so happy you took time out to tell people about your story
by: Anonymous

hey, jesse
i am glad you took time to write about your story. what was did to you was not nice at all. i wonder where he at and what he doing now i wonder did he learn from what he did to you if i seen somebody like him i would have told someone and every time you don`t tell somebody you start to blame yourself for what you did and i think you shouldn't think about that and you an your boyfriend

Nov 01, 2009

be strong , dont let any one push you over !
by: Anonymous

no one should be exposed and have to go through such disgusting things as he did to you. you are a child and should be given those rights to grow up in a safe and loving environment. im so sorry to read that, you be strong girl
xx

Oct 23, 2009

Glad to see that you're speaking out!
by: Brandy Shirley, M.A.

Hi Jess,

I'm so glad you took the time to post your story. You are on your way to healing from your past.

I believe you are wise for understanding that the abuse has made you who you are today. However, like most survivors of abuse, it's easy to focus on the negative side of the abuse rather than the positive. As you stated, "My childhood is ruined. I am screwed up inside. I don't know who I am. I don't know how to act normal."

Instead of looking at the negative aspect of the abuse, I recommend that you start telling yourself.."I am a strong, confident person because of the abuse. I trust myself and my body. I am taking the time to learn more about who I am. I am blessed and a child of God."

If you would like to practice more of these affirmations on a daily basis, check out the Positive Affirmations for Your Daily Living e-book. This will get you in a positive mindset as you are learning more about who you are.

With all my love,

Brandy

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