Handling a breakup ....content of final letter

by Bryan
( Courtice Ontario Canada)

I am feeling a lot of pain resulting from my breakup with Nancy.We spent so much time together and I feel so lost without her


y problem is that I'd had a beautiful relationship in so many ways but my girlfriend (of 8 months)appeared to mistrust me .

We did have periodic disagreements and Nancy accused me of handling them in an "unhealthy manner". The problem related to the fact that I found out I'd got an ED problem which impacted on our physical relationship .

This to me was the SOURCE of most of the problems we encountered and had I been able to satisfy her then I have little doubt we would still be together as we had so many beautiful times together.

The last time I saw Nancy was just over 4 weeks ago and everything that could go wrong went wrong & my reactions were not good & I said things that may have caused permanent damage.Nancy was totally unforgiving in her responses to me & even cut me off her E mail because of the things I'd said and done the last time we met.

What I haven't said is that her friend who had introduced us thru Match.com was instrumental in influencing Nancy into believing I was active on Match.com . This was totally untrue & I actually believe her friend may have clicked my profile to make it appear I was active as her friend was not happy & misery loves company.

I actually live 2 1/2 hours from Nancy & she had prior to my last visit indicated that she was prepared to give me till the beginning of August to fix my ED problem.

However the week before I went to North Tonawanda NY (I live in Oshawa Ontario Canada) her friend Darcie met up with Nancy & misled her into believing I was on Match.com & when I went to visit Nancy she was really cold and made me feel unwelcome .

Nancy has such a beautiful side to her but suffers from fibro myalgia a muscular disease which does affect her moods and I tried so hard to help her & wanted more for her than I wanted for myself.

What hurts is that we enjoyed so many beautiful times together. I know she really cared about me but her frustration about the ED problem (which I had solved thru increasing my testosterone levels using Zinc and seeing a specialist ) was the source of 95% of our disagreements.

This combined with her friend falsely convincing her I was on Match.com contributed to the rejection I felt the last time I saw her. What happened would not have happened had her friend not misled her & I believe I could have proved that I no longer had an ED problem.

With all of these factors taken into consideration ...would the I'm sorry letter work acknowledging that I accept the breakup ? I have a night gown of hers which I plan on returning(as hard as it will be) & can use this as a means to communicate with her but how do I word my letter ?

Any help you can give me will be really appreciated as I really don't want to lose contact altogether ....she could be dating but I have no knowledge of anything that has happened in her life for the past 4 weeks.