Friendship Advice:
How to Handle Unhealthy Friendships!

Whenever I needed friendship advice during my life, I never knew where to turn. However, after a lot of searching, I finally decided to turn to myself for the answers.


Part of building a better "relationship with yourself" means that you are willing to become your own best friend. Yet, many people have difficulty with this idea and are typically more comfortable with...

"Being Their Own Worst Enemy!"

Relating to this experience, I've often looked outside of myself for comfort and acceptance. I've depended on others to love me in order to feel important, needed, and valued because I never understood how to truly love myself.

Now I believe it's much better being by yourself than being with friends who don't appreciate who you are.


Have a friendship problem? Need friendship advice? Post your question below.


Questions to Ask Yourself When Deciding Whether or Not a Friendship is Unhealthy!
  • How do I feel when I am around this person?
  • Does this person lift me up in times of pain, disappointment, or struggle?
  • Does this person create more drama in my life than I need?
  • Are my needs being met?
  • Is this friendship one-sided?
  • Can I be myself with this person?

Usually, you'll know when a friendship is unhealthy by trusting the way you feel. For instance, if you feel drained, exhausted, defensive or if the two of you are fighting more than getting along, it's time to reevaluate your friendship.

If you're having problems with a group of friends, being your own best friend is more important than ever. It's much easier to follow a group when you have an unhealthy relationship with yourself.

Overall, the best friendship advice I can give you is...

..take an active role in your life and choose your friends wisely. Once you learn how to appreciate your uniqueness, you'll find friends with the same like-minded qualities.

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