Feelings Chart
A Guide to the Self

The feelings chart is a map or perhaps a guide to discovering yourself. I believe that once you are aware of your feelings, you are aware of yourself and can live consciously as well as responsibly.

In order to become aware of your feelings, I have made this chart very easy to follow by helping you focus on either..

The overall goal is to become aware of the feelings that are "fearful," recognize them for what they are and then let these feelings go. As well as, recognize "love feelings," appreciate them and learn to feel love more often.

Let's get started...

Fear

I define Fear as everything opposite of unconditional love. It's important to remember that everyone will experience fear at some point or another (some more than others), and not to judge yourself or others for having these fearful feelings. In order to know love, you will know fear.

"The Feelings Chart for Fear."

• Impatience
• Cruelty
• Judgment
• Being Critical
• Having to be right
• Having Unhealthy expectations of Yourself and Others
• Disrespectful
• Negative Self-Talk
• Not Taking Responsibility for Your Feelings, Thoughts, and Actions (Blaming Others)
• Doubt
• Worry
• Distrustful
• Depressed
• Demanding
• Controlling
• Abusive
• Yelling
• Anger
• Lacking Self-Control
• Not Appreciating Others
• Jealousy
• Only Caring About the Self and Not Caring about the Needs, Wants, Feelings of Others
• Anxiety
• Stress
• Living in the past
• Refusing to forgive; Holding grudges

It's important to understand and pay attention to whether or not the fearful feelings are interfering with your ability to be your best self. You'll know when these feelings are interfering with your best self when you are more unhappy than happy.

Let's move on with the "Feelings of Love.."

Love

I define unconditional love as everything fear isn't. For instance, when you are loving, you are genuinely happy, accepting, willing to learn, appreciative of yourself and others, and able to let unnecessary expectations go. In other words, unconditional love means you are able to love yourself and others without conditions!

Below you will find the "Feelings Chart of Love." This chart will help you become aware of the feelings and behaviors that define love.

• Patience
• Kindness
• Nonjudgmental attitude
• Understanding; Willing to see both sides
• Compassionate; Putting yourself in the other person's shoes.
• Expressing Healthy Expectations
• Respectful
• Positive Self-Talk
• Being Responsible for Your Feelings, Thoughts, and Actions
• Trustworthy
• Setting Goals
• Living on Purpose
• Appreciating Others for Who They Are
• Appreciating Yourself (Faults and All)
• Communicating Your Needs, Wants, Beliefs, Values, Goals in a Healthy, Loving Way to Yourself and Others
• Self-Discipline
• Enjoyment
• Laughter
• Faith
• Feeling Good About Who You Are
• Taking Care of Yourself Physically, Mentally, Spiritually, and Emotionally
• Creative
• Happy and fulfilled
• Providing service to others
• Living in the present and hopeful for the future
• Forgive easily; Never hold grudges

The feelings chart of fear and love is a guideline to help you become aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Your responsibility is to determine if your thoughts, feelings, and actions are directed more toward fear or love. When you start to feel tired, worn down, depressed, or worried, make it a priority to choose love instead.

All in all, always honor your feelings because when you honor your feelings, you honor yourself!