Feelings Chart
A
Guide to the Self
The feelings chart
is a map or perhaps a guide to discovering yourself. I believe that
once you are aware of your feelings, you are aware of yourself and can
live consciously as well as responsibly.
In order to become
aware of your feelings, I have made this chart very easy to
follow by helping you focus on either..
Fear
or Love
The overall goal is
to become aware of the feelings that are "fearful," recognize them for
what they are and then let these feelings go. As well as, recognize
"love feelings," appreciate them and learn to feel love
more often.
Let's get started...
Fear
I define Fear
as everything opposite of unconditional
love. It's important to remember
that everyone will experience fear at
some point or another (some more than others), and not to judge
yourself or others for having these fearful feelings. In order to know
love, you
will know fear.
"The Feelings Chart for Fear."
- Impatience
- Cruelty
- Judgment
- Being Critical
- Having to be
right
- Having Unhealthy
expectations of Yourself and Others
- Disrespectful
- Negative
Self-Talk
- Not Taking
Responsibility for Your Feelings, Thoughts, and Actions (Blaming Others)
- Doubt
- Worry
- Distrustful
- Depressed
- Demanding
- Controlling
- Abusive
- Yelling
- Anger
- Lacking
Self-Control
- Not Appreciating
Others
- Jealousy
- Only Caring
About the Self and Not Caring about the Needs, Wants, Feelings of Others
- Anxiety
- Stress
- Living in the
past
- Refusing to
forgive; Holding grudges
It's important to
understand and pay
attention to whether
or not the fearful feelings are interfering with your
ability to be your best self. You'll know when these feelings are
interfering with your best self when you are more unhappy than happy.
Let's move on with
the "Feelings
of Love.."
Love
I define
unconditional love as everything fear isn't.
For instance,
when you are loving, you are genuinely happy, accepting, willing to
learn, appreciative of yourself and others, and able to let unnecessary
expectations go. In other words, unconditional love means you are able
to love yourself and others without conditions!
Below you will
find the "Feelings Chart of Love."
This chart will help you become aware of the feelings and behaviors
that
define love.
- Patience
- Kindness
- Nonjudgmental
attitude
- Understanding;
Willing to see both sides
- Compassionate;
Putting yourself in the other person's shoes.
- Expressing
Healthy
Expectations
- Respectful
- Positive
Self-Talk
- Being
Responsible for Your Feelings, Thoughts, and Actions
- Trustworthy
- Setting Goals
- Living on Purpose
- Appreciating
Others for Who They Are
- Appreciating
Yourself (Faults and All)
- Communicating
Your Needs, Wants, Beliefs, Values, Goals in a Healthy, Loving Way to
Yourself and Others
- Self-Discipline
- Enjoyment
- Laughter
- Faith
- Feeling Good
About Who You Are
- Taking Care of
Yourself Physically, Mentally, Spiritually, and Emotionally
- Creative
- Happy and
fulfilled
- Providing
service to others
- Living in the
present and hopeful for the future
- Forgive easily;
Never hold grudges
The feelings chart
of fear and love is a guideline to
help you become
aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Your responsibility is
to determine if your thoughts, feelings, and actions are directed more
toward fear or love. When you start to feel tired,
worn down, depressed, or worried, make it a priority to choose love
instead.
All in all, always
honor
your feelings because when you
honor your
feelings, you honor yourself!
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