Feelings Chart
A Guide to the Self

The feelings chart is a map or perhaps a guide to discovering yourself. I believe that once you are aware of your feelings, you are aware of yourself.

In order to become more aware of your feelings, I have made this chart very easy to follow. The whole simplicity is, it's based on two primary emotions:

Love and Fear

The overall goal is to become aware of the feelings that are "fearful," recognize them for what they are, and then let these feelings go. As well as, recognize "love feelings," appreciate them, and learn to feel love more often.

Let's get started...

Experiencing Fear as an emotion, feeling, or behavior

I define Fear as everything opposite of unconditional love. For instance, fear is a feeling of sadness, depression, being tired, and feeling just plain unhappy. In addition, when you are fearful you are not trusting a higher power, yourself, or others to help you in your time of need.

But the important thing to remember here is, everyone experiences fear and it's essential for your growing needs.

Listed here is my "Feelings Chart and Behavior Chart for Fear."

• Impatience
• Cruelty
• Judgmental
• Being Critical
• Not willing to understand
• Having Unhealthy Expectations of yourself and others
• Being Disrespectful
• Negative Self-Talk
• Not Taking Responsibility for Your Feelings, Thoughts, and Actions
• Doubting
• Worrying
• Lacking Trust
• Being Depressed
• Being Demanding
• Being Controlling
• Being Abusive
• Yelling
• Being Angry
• Lacking Self-Control
• Not Appreciating Others
• Jealousy
• Obligations
• Only Caring About the Self and Not Caring about the Needs, Wants, Feelings of Others
• Anxiety
• Stress

To let go of fear, you need to understand and pay attention to whether or not these feelings, behaviors, and actions are interfering with your ability to be your best self.

Let's move on with the "Feelings of Love.."

Experiencing Love as an emotion, feeling, or behavior

I define unconditional love as everything fear isn't. For instance, when you are loving, you are genuinely happy, accepting, willing to learn, appreciative of yourself and others, and able to let unnecessary expectations go. In other words, unconditional love means you are able to love yourself and others without conditions!

Below you will find the "Feelings Chart and Behavior Chart of Love." This chart will help you become aware of the actions and feelings that define love.

• Patience
• Kindness
• Being Nonjudgmental
• Being Understanding
• Having NO Unhealthy Expectations of Yourself and Others
• Being Respectful
• Positive Self-Talk
• Being Responsible for Your Feelings, Thoughts, and Actions
• Being Trustful
• Setting Goals for the Self
• Finding Your Purpose
• Appreciating Others for Who They Are
• Appreciating Yourself (Faults and All)
• Communicating Your Needs, Wants, Beliefs, Values, Goals in a Healthy, Loving Way to Yourself and Others
• Discipline of the Self
• Enjoyment
• Laughter
• Faith
• Feeling Good About Who You Are
• Having Healthy Sex
• Taking Care of Yourself Physically, Mentally, Spiritually, and Emotionally
• Being Creative
• Smiling
• Helping Others

The feelings chart of love and fear is a guideline to help you become aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Your responsibility is to determine if your thoughts, feelings, and actions are directed more toward fear or love. You are entitled to experience either fear or love. Definitely, honor your feelings because when you honor your feelings, you honor yourself! However, when you start to feel tired, worn down, depressed, or worried, pay attention to your feelings and choose love instead.