Conflict Resolution Tips:
Tips for Resolving the Conflict in Your Relationships.

In this article, you'll find conflict resolution tips for anyone who is tired of avoiding the battles in their life. And typically when I speak of battles, I'm speaking of those times when you feel distressed as a result of someone else's comments, accusations, or assumptions about how they are feeling about you.

Conflict is not pleasant, but it doesn't have to be detrimental to your health. Actually, it's quite easy to face conflict and gain confidence at the same time. With these tips, I'll show you how to do that! You can use these tips for workplace, family, and significant other conflict.

Conflict Resolution Tips...

• Don't take the conflict personal

I know..I know..you may be saying.. "How can I not take this personal when I was just downgraded and yelled at by my husband?" Well, trust me, I know that it isn't easy to not take conflict personal, but it's absolutely essential if you want to keep your dignity after the conflict.

Most of the time when there are accusations, criticisms, and assumptions it's because the one initiating the conflict is in pain themselves. However, you can be the person to put an end to these attacks. You do this by not allowing yourself to soak up the other person's unresolved issues..just be there without any judgment. This will actually help them work out their issues and you will not be hurt as a result of it.



• Allow yourself to become calm in the moment of distress

In the midst of conflict, it's easy to want to fight back and protect yourself. The best way to protect yourself is to stay calm during the conflict. Look the other person in their eyes when they are screaming, cussing, or whatever else and be calm. Anger doesn't fight anger...peace fights anger. So be at peace!



• Listen

One of the best conflict resolution tips is to listen. But there's much more to listening than just letting the other person talk. It's about letting the other person know that you have heard how they're truly feeling.

If you want to end an argument right away and feel at peace about it as well, let the person vent. After they are done talking, repeat what they had just said, but do it in your own words. I'll give you an example of an argument my husband and I had the other day.

Our cell phone broke and I wanted to buy a new one right away. My intention was to go to our local phone company and purchase a phone, but he wanted to check out "free" phones on the Internet first. He was trying to state his reasoning for why we should wait to look online when I interrupted him with my thoughts, which escalated the argument.

In the end, after our long car ride home, I looked on the Internet and told him that I understood why he wanted to find a phone online and that I was sorry for being impatient. The moral of the story..this ended the conflict and we were able to enjoy the rest of the night. I felt at peace and so did he.



• Learn from the conflict

This is the wisest tip out of all the conflict resolution tips. The purpose of conflict is to grow from the experience. If you didn't like how you felt during the argument, during the next conflict choose to respond in a different way. As Albert Einstein stated, "The definition of insanity is choosing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."



• Withhold destructive words and actions

By all means, do not and I repeat DO NOT put the other person down even when they are putting you down. You will only speak words that lack integrity. And you are not that person anymore! You are someone who handles conflict with style..with peace and assertiveness.



• Be assertive

Of course, when you are being disrespected from another person, I am not saying to become a doormat. It's important to speak words of confidence and self-respect during arguments. Stand up for your beliefs by using statements of "I." Try statements like this.."I don't appreciate being downgraded. When you are ready to speak to me in a respectful way, I'll be in the other room."

If the other person doesn't respect your assertiveness, it will not matter because you can be confident without their apologies or respect.

So the next time you're in conflict, be sure to practice these conflict resolution tips and you'll be on your way to confidence and peace!