Communication
Skill Builders:
For
the Fights in Your Relationships
Do you want to
learn more about communication skill builders?
Okay, let's get
started...
Communication is an
activity, a everyday occurrence, that naturally happens. Without
communication we could not share our thoughts, feelings, or beliefs.
Unfortunately, our
communication skills are lacking in this society. We scream, yell,
throw fits, cuss, call each other names, and show little respect for
the ones we say, "I love you."
However, if the
above sounds like you, you can change your form of communication with..
The Communication Skill Builder
Tips:
- When you are
screaming at the other person because you are so angry, stop yourself
at that moment. Realize that you are making the situation worse.
- Listen to what
the other person is saying first and withhold your emotions for that
moment.
- Don't take what
others are saying personal. Understand that they have their own
insecurities, doubts, and fears that they're struggling with.
- After you are
done listening, repeat what they said to you. For example, "I hear what
you are saying and I can understand why you are angry. You are angry
because I spent money we didn't have." (The other person will calm down
after they feel heard.)
- After this
person has calmed down, let them know how you felt about the situation.
"I guess I spent the money because I feel that I never have anything
for myself."
- After you both
feel heard, the situation will resolve itself and there will be a new
understanding of each other.
Note...
This takes practice.
If your fights have
been a consistent battle due to a variety of issues, there will be more
work involved for the both of you.
The
beauty of communication skill builders is...
If the other person
isn't willing to communicate their differences, you can benefit from
practicing the skill builders for yourself and for the other
relationships in your life.
Communication is
about honoring the self. If your communication skills are poor, there
is still hope and the ability to improve your skills and your
self-worth.
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