Sharing a child
abuse story is not easy. Yet, in order to heal and begin having a
better relationship with yourself, it's important to share the
experience with someone else.
In a way, sharing
this major event validates your feelings and beliefs about the
incidents endured during childhood.
However, although
your
feelings may be validated, this is only the beginning of healing. You
will have to work hard on analyzing your relationships, self-talk,
and overall perception of yourself in order to heal completely.
You will also need
to be patient, determined, motivated, and willing
to experience times of trouble, pain, frustration, and anger toward the
ones who have hurt you.
1.) Get
reacquainted with your past. Go back to those painful memories and let
yourself feel them without judgment. You can begin this by writing
in a journal.
2.) Research books
and other resources about healing from childhood abuse. You need to
gain as much insight as possible during your time of healing. Check out
the free child
abuse e-book if you would like
to start reading material now!
3.) Build yourself
up as much as possible. Build your self-esteem by thinking positive
thoughts and by surrounding yourself with positive people. You can
begin by practicing affirmations
on a daily basis.
4.) Little by
little start letting go of the past. Realize that the abuse was not
your fault, and the one who inflicted abuse on you lacked awareness of
how their actions were affecting you. However, do not justify their
actions. Set your boundaries and learn to trust yourself.
5.) Forgiveness is
the hardest step. This takes time as well and only you know when you're
ready to forgive. Forgiveness basically is helping you. It's about
letting go of that hate, anger, and frustration you have built up
overtime. Imagine what this is doing to your mind, body, and soul.
Click below to see contributions from other visitors to this page...
Jordan 16
When I was about 2 years old my mother died and it was just me and my dad he loved me very much and never did anything to hurt me but when I turned 5 he ...
Terri, 42, United States
I've visited this site but never before had the guts to tell any of my stories. I only do so now because I'm desperate for advice. When I was in junior ...
Joanna 18 yrs India
i was six when i was forced to have sexual intercourse with my maids boyfriend. my parents were both working at that time and we had a maid who used to ...
Zoe 28 USA
I would say Im just coming to terms with the fact that I was even abused. Even as I'm writing this that part inside of me is screaming, "shut up! you weren'...
Andie,15, USA
Well, I guess I'll start at the beginning. I never really met my dad till I was 3 because he was gone in the military and had an extensive background ...
Jasmine, 14, new zealand
Ever since the day I can remember I have been, hit, kicked, punched, called names, sworn at and told I am not wanted.
I moved from a school north of ...
Derek age 42 USA
I was born to teenage hippies in 1969. My biological father said he was more of a beatnik but to me, tomatoes tomahtoes. They married shortly before I ...
Jenna, 14 USA
I didn't know what was happening wasn't normal until around 6th grade. My parents hit me, and on occasion, beat me. Adding on to that, i also suffer from ...
Abby, 22, united sates
I think I was 3 or 3 1/2 years old when this started. I had to go live with my uncle larry at a young age because my mom had severe mental problems (I ...
Mia ,15, Canada
It is very hard for me to be writing this right but I feel like It's important for other to feel like they're not alone.
So here's my story
I ...
Brenden 16 America
Since i was 7 when my "dad" adopted me, he has abused me in every way you could possibly think of. The first time he ever raped me i thought it was normal ...
John, 44, US
My name is John and I'm 44 years old. I recently tried to kill myself.
I'm not going to tell you how because it was apparently one of the most effective ...
Bobby 28 usa
Ok where to start? I don't know how to really go about this. I have shared some of my story, but never a whole lot, so I guess I can post a little here ...
Shauneen, 20, Ireland
Hi,
I don't know where to start. I suppose I should say that I am currently in counselling at the moment for issues with anger and depression. It's ...
Anna-bell 14 nunavut
we where living in Yellowknife alotta years ago there was me my little brother who is now 10 and my younger sister who is now 12 i was like maybe 7-8 years ...
Tanya, 17, USA
I apologize, my story is kind of long, so thank you for taking the time to read it.
I was never wanted, not even as a child. My so called mother brought ...
Sasha, 26, USA
Well, Im 26 now but my abuse has been going on since I could remember. Im the youngest of 3. My mother has always been so attached to her church that she ...
John 76 USA
I suffered physical and mental abuse most of my life. It started when I was about 6 or 7 years of age. I was the oldest of 5 boys and no sisters.
I ...
Tami, 48, US
I have been telling my "Story" since I was 21, trying to get Anyone to Listen. It was met with coldness and I stopped. The look of disbelief was always ...
Jess, 16, USA
Hello I don't know what to call it abuse, rape or what. When I was seven I was home laying in bed in one of my daddy's t-shirts.
Then, I want to say ...
Rachel, 31, England
Years passed and the same relationship with my mum continued, cold, not loved, putting me down until i was totally and absolutely afraid of her, i was ...
Lianna, U.S.A
This is my story and it's still going on.
My name is Lianna, and I've just turned 13. I'm sorry I had to lie about my age but I want my story to be ...
Duane, 31, USA
I am not sure if my story was bad enough to be consider abusive. I'll let you guys determine that. I will say it had a profound impact on me.
I am not ...
I still love my mother even though she hurt me
I was born into a bad situation. When I was born I never knew why I did not grow up with my mother between birth and 5 years old.
To find out my ...
jeremy 37 slc ut
My parents divorced when I was 9 years old. A couple of months later I moved in with my dad. I got a job delivering newspapers in the new neighborhood....
mehgan 14 America
Well, this could possibly inspire someone, even though I'm only 14, and am still physically and emotionally abused. My mom, too often, makes me bruise ...
Hannah,14,U.S.A.
Hi. My story will be long but plz listen to it. my daddy will be home soon. Thank you so much whoever put up this website because i have wanted to tell ...
Trista 28 united states
Well I don't really know that this would be considered child abuse, but when I was growing up I felt like I was never loved as a child.
My parents ...
Paul-37-USA
My father was both physically and emotionally abusive. I can not actually remember how old I was when it started, maybe younger than I can remember.
He ...
Ann, 29, UK
It has been fourteen years now. Fourteen years since I was abused.
I was working in a pantomime group as a stage hand. I came from a poor background ...
Danielle, 14, UK
Since i was a little girl, about 7 or 8, my parents always used to hit me. It happened at least once a week, sometimes 2 or 3 times. I thought it was my ...
Tina, 45, U.S.
My mother called me a "weak pathetic, stupid b*" more often than my name & slapped me, scratched me till my arms bled, hit me with chords, shoes, hair ...
Madison,13 US
When I was 4, I was molested by the son of the daycare I went to, there were other kids he did it to also. I've only shared this with two of my closest ...
Malathi, 38, India
Hi, just a few days back going thru another website i realised that i have been thru the same thinks as a child - SEXUALLY ABUSED and that the reason my ...
Jealous Mother
I hated my mother from birth. I was an "accident" according to my father. My mother and I never bonded. She hated me for being born and hated to even ...
Madison, 18, USA
It took me a really long time to spill the beans about my abuse. When it was actually happening I had no idea that is was sexual abuse. I had no idea the ...
Charles 58 USA
My name is Charles Dudrey the author of “Hell on Church Street” My story begins ten years before my birth with the life of my mother during the close of ...
Chelsea, 18, united states
When i was growing up, my mother started dating someone whom i didnt get get along with. Athough i didnt like hime, things seemed fine. that is until he ...
Cat, 18, USA
My step-father never did anything to me until I hit puberty. I would always catch him staring at me, and for many years I would wear baggy clothes to hide ...
SoulWriter88, 39, female, Canada
Hi there. I am a survivor of abuse. I feel it is time to share my story with others with the intent that it may help someone in their own healing journey....
sonnsearray johnson
well when i was born my dad was in and out of my life he never really was there for me and my mom but my dad was a violent alcholic and when he would ...
Rachel, California, 37 y/o
My mom hated me ever since I can remember. She accused me of things I never did. She taught my brothers and sisters to hate me too. I have always been ...
Julie 27 US
My name is Julie and I was abused when I was a child by my dad. I just relized this completly when I started seeking God and preying to him. I new I was ...
Amanda, United States, 17 years old
My Story About My Life
My name is Amanda. I’m 17 years old and in the eleventh grade.
My biological mom left me, my sister, and my brother when ...
Carol, 18, US
Even before I ran away, I knew no one would believe me. I knew no one would believe me about my dad. To think , it actually had to come to this. I'm here ...
Jamie, 19, USA
Right. So my experiences are perhaps not as intense as other folks who've shared on this site...and I in no way want to devalue their stories or ...
caroline 34 Ireland
How can I start if I am still trying to figure out everything myself. I have always been emotionally excluded and never made feel part of the family and ...
Fred, 28, USA
My story begins with what started off as a normal day of winter vacation. Please forgive me if this is graphic, but I MUST tell what happened as it happened....
MsTish!
Hello World...My name is MsTish! and I would like for my fellow industry friends to help me get this story of abandonment-adoption-abuse- and successout ...
Diane 44 USA
I really don't know where to begin but I feel a strong need to say something and I am not even sure it was abuse, but I am pretty sure is wasn't a normal ...
Emmet, 15, United States.
This is abuse. I know that much. I was 6-8 years old, and it happened with my cousins... and my siblings... which makes me wonder if everyones gone through ...