Bronwen, 26, South Africa

I have romantic feelings for a friend. We met online a year and half ago, went out twice, he asked to become friends. I felt an attraction for him but respected his honesty and decision. I too wanted friendship with him. I figured the attraction I felt would dissipate. It hasn't. It's hurting me now. I believe he doesn't feel the same way and potentially suspects my feelings for him. Although I can't be sure.

I also, which he knows all about, haven't had very much romantic experience. The only experience I've had was humiliating for me. I made a mistake trusting the wrong man 2 years ago, believing that he liked me and cared to start something with me. It's affected my self esteem as a woman going out into the world and trying to meet someone new I could be great with.

I value his friendship and the time we spend together. He makes time for me. He challenges me and shows an interest in everything I do and think. I don't want to lose it or tarnish it. He's someone I trust and respect, and have come to share things I don't with anyone else.

I don't know what to do. I feel I should stay away from him for a period of time, but he would question that and I fear that would change the friendship unintentionally.

On the flip side, I fear seeing him because I don't want my feelings to become obvious and get in the way. I realize I have to let go somehow. The friendship is too important to me. What is the best way to go about this?

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