Best friend and his girlfriend

by L
(devon, england)

I have know my best friends since i was 14,i will call him Jon and we were really close, i was in a relationship which was bad and my partner was mentally and physically abusive to me, and he helped me get out and become a stronger person and we ended up dating which lasted nearly a year but i realized the love i felt for him was more friend based and ended it, but we managed to keep a great friendship!

Then for my birthday we went out and we met my other friend Katie and at first i felt confused and upset but i think it was cos it was quite soon after we broke up maybe a month if not less. but she was worried and asked me if it was ok for them to go out! but i realized how much Jon liked her i said yes! he has never been the go get her kind of guy but he did with her.

at first it was great, we were all still good mates. he said apparently she was a bit jealous and sometimes got upset with him and said £happy bithday chaz! love ya hunn"your still in love with her aren't you" (me) but he wasn't and i could tell that just by looking at them together!

but she moved to college/uni but its not to far only like a 30 min train away! so hes goes an visits her and stays with her.

I have a big group of friends who have all know Katie for ages like age 11! And one (nat)stood up for katie even when she told a big lie which everyone knows is a lie even nat! but she could not be bothered to come to nats bday even when other friends have come from a whole days travel to be there! And she was 10 mins away!

all they now seem to care about is each other. and apparently katie has been telling more serious lies about members of the group!

i got so annoyed and told them so,and that they are not making an effort so if she did not tell the lie why should i believe her over my other friends.

but the main thing is Jon won't answer may calls so obviously hes on her side! i don't even mind if shes told the lies as long as she admits it and apologizes! If they both made more of an effort i would of prob stood up for her! but he hasn't and neither has she!

I was the only person who went to her bday party! im always the one calling him to see how he is and im always the one who has to organize to see each other even before this! Its not fair! He was there for me when i needed him and want to be there for him, and i worried its gonna end badly! they got engaged after 10 months and there only 19/20!

help! :S