Amanda's Child Abuse Story

Amanda from the United States writes:Hi my name is Amanda and I am fourteen years old. I was physically and sexually abused by my father at the ages of 7,8,9,10, and 11. My father raped me 12 times. He would go out to clubs at night then come home drunk and rape me. The next day he would act like nothing ever happened. My dad beat me every day when I was with him...He would only do it at night. I never understood why. But I felt like I was a bad kid because of it. I went to court because I told my counselor about it and all he got was two years of probation. It wasn’t much but I feel much better that I told.

Amanda,

I’m glad to hear that you had the courage to tell your counselor. It’s not uncommon to feel like you did something to cause your father to rape you; however, it’s important to begin telling yourself that you were in no way at fault for this.

Your father was in a selfish state at the time when he was physically and sexually abusing you. He did not stop and think about his actions and how his actions were affecting your emotional, mental, and sexual well-being; instead all he was thinking about was fulfilling his needs, wants, and insecurities. Deep down your father was probably aware of his inappropriate behavior, and instead of correcting it, he hid it with alcohol abuse.

Definitely continue talking to your counselor about your feelings of “being a bad kid,” ask him or her how to overcome the effects of the abuse, and ask your counselor how he or she can begin helping you improve your self-esteem.

My hope for you, Amanda, is that you’ll continue to heal and allow yourself the freedom to live your life fully! It’s too bad that your father only got two years of probation, but because of your courage, he is now aware that his behavior was inappropriate! In the end, your actions have proved to your father and to yourself that: “You loved yourself and your father enough to stop the abuse!”

Sometimes the best way to love someone, regardless of what has happened, is to no longer allow the abuse to continue! Congrats to you and here’s to Loving Yourself!

With Love,

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