April 01, 2008
Relationship-with-Self Newsletter: Issue 004
April 1st, 2008
Hello All,
Creating a loving relationship with yourself is an ongoing process of failures, setbacks, success, happiness, sadness, and so much more. However, I am here to help you through your journey of life by providing the necessary tips for living a life full of love, acceptance, and understanding rather than a life full of fear, negativity, and disappointments. I hope you enjoy today's newsletter and please drop me a line with your comments, suggestions, or appreciation. I would love to hear from you!
All the best,
Brandy Shirley, M.A.
In this issue..
Humor: A funny commercial and a good prank for telemarketers.
Inspiration: Great inspirational quotes to motivate you to love yourself.
A Loving Tip: Respecting yourself and another.
Questions/Answers: Do you have a question or concern about your life or about this site? Share your questions with others.
Freebies: Free journal to ventilate your feelings.
Recommended Resources: I highly recommend reading "Color Me Butterfly" by L.Y. Marlow and "Spontaneous Healing of Belief" by Gregg Braden.
New Relationship-with-Self Information: Check out all the new articles added this month.
Upcoming Information:
Relationship-with-Self e-books and new articles.
Humor
I love this youtube video. It's about a banned condom commercial. Although we love our children, sometimes it's easy to question what you've gotten yourself into. This commercial is a good example of that.
If the youtube video doesn't show up, click and paste this code into your browser..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nojWJ6-XmeQ&feature=related
I also love this recording a man left for telemarketers. Because of the stress we go through with telemarketers, I believe it's good to make light of it whenever we can.
If the youtube video doesn't show, copy and paste this code into your web browser...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J5z4Vs26-TI&feature=related
Inspiration
These quotes are provided by Joel Osteen..."You have something to offer that nobody else can give."
"Don't talk about the way that you are, talk about the way that you want to be."
"God was thinking about you before you were ever born."
"You will give birth to more in the future than you've lost in the past."
"Your destiny is not determined by your critics."
"Celebrate other people's victories."
A Loving Tip--Respecting Others While Respecting Ourselves at the Same Time!
Often times we forget, or we've never learned, how to truly respect others while respecting ourselves. Yet, this is the most profound gift you could ever give yourself or another. In a way, when you respect another person, you're respecting yourself.Let me share a story...
The other day I found myself raiding a co-worker's office after she was fired. At first, I went in there to get a light bulb from her lamp since mine had burnt out. I figured since she was no longer employed, she would no longer need the light bulb, so I helped myself.
While I was in her office I decided to help myself to her lotion as well. It was a Bath and Body Works Lotion and I felt that I had to have it. I figured since she was gone she would no longer need this lotion, so again, I helped myself.
Well, the next day this co-worker came back to the agency to claim the rest of her belongings. I was glad to see her, yet I felt very ashamed that I took her lotion just a day after she was fired.
So, I found myself very conflicted with whether or not to tell her that I took her lotion. On one hand, she would have never of known that I took her lotion, but on the other hand, it would be on my conscious.
I found myself trying to avoid her that day because I didn't want to tell her. However, as I was sneaking out of the office for the day, I ran smack into her. I thought to myself, "Okay, God, I get the point!"
We spoke casually about how she was recuperating and what she planned to do with the circumstances God gave her, and then I felt compelled to be honest. I said, "I have to admit that I took your lotion. I thought that you were done with your belongings and I told myself that if you didn't want it, then I would take it."
Surprisingly, she responded in a pleasant, respectful way. She said, "I'm glad you are able to use it. I would have probably of thrown it away myself." I then responded, "If you want it back, I will be more than happy to bring it back to you." She continued to respond the same. So, we made our peace and the heavy burden was lifted off my shoulders.
So, long story short, although I could have easily failed to tell her about the lotion, I decided to do the respectful thing and be honest. I felt ashamed and guilty for being disrespectful of her belongings, but I knew I had to make it right for the both of us.
The point I'm trying to make here is this, when you're respectful of another person, you're doing yourself a favor. Even when the person doesn't respond in your favor, giving respect turns out to always be a win-win situation.
And remember this, when your questioning whether or not you need to do the "right-respectful" thing, you'll always find your answer to be, "Yes!"
Respect is a God given quality that is instilled in all of us. However, sometimes we forget the importance of respect and find ourselves needing a little "smack" from God to remind us!
Questions/Answers
If you have any questions about your relationships, self-esteem, career choices, mental health, and whatever else, please feel free to ask for some advice. I will provide free therapeutic advice for those in need. After you have posted your question, I will add the question and response to the next newsletter. So, if you are ready to post your question, click here for your answer.Please read the privacy policy for any reassurance you may need for confidentiality.
Also, please let me know what you think of the newsetter. Let me know what you would like to see and/or what you like/dislike about it.
Freebies
I recently added a free journal for relationship-with-self newsletter subscribers. This free journal is a complimentary gift for being a relationship-with-self viewer. It's a perfect opportunity to ventilate your true feelings, be yourself, and discover what the future holds for you. You'll find quotes on each page to encourage you to stay true to your feelings. I hope you enjoy it!Recommended Resources
Recommended Resources:I have recently been informed about an award winning book called Color Me Butterfly by L.Y.Marlow. Since being informed about this wonderful book, I have had the pleasure of reading to my heart's content. I have to say that I have had a difficult time putting this book down!
A message from Color Me Butterfly promoters and believers in the book...
Color Me Butterfly is a true story of courage, hope, and transformation
Everyone has a story to tell; some are happy, others are sad. L. Y. Marlow's story will break your heart, but will also give you hope. We are bringing this to you today because Marlow's story is one that needs to be told!
Rarely does a book come along that tells a compelling, captivating story and gives us all hope. Color Me Butterfly is that book. It is a touching and insightful read for anyone in search of courage, faith, love, and purpose. Find out for yourself!
The following is an excerpt from L. Y. Marlow's Award winning Color Me Butterfly:
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"Mattie pushed Deller's leg from the pit of her stomach, causing Deller to stir. She turned away from the sunlight to salvage a few final moments before the familiar sound of their mother's
footsteps approaching their room marked morning. Instead, she
was alarmed to hear the thunderous voice of her father—at it
again—screaming at their mother for something Mattie couldn't
quite make out because Isaac's anger obliterated reason.
She pulled the blanket over her head to silence him, but she could tell from the tone and depth of his voice that today would be a bad day, the kind when she was reminded that he was no longer their daddy. He was Isaac, with a capital "I." They no longer thought of him as the father who used to play with them, take them to see a picture show, and lead them in birthday song. Their Daddy had disappeared, replaced by this volatile, angry man.
When the loud voices were replaced by loud thumps, they all sat up in their beds and looked at the door, imagining what was happening to their mother on the other side…"
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On another note, Gregg Braden has a new book called "The Spontaneous Healing of Belief," which I thought might be of interest to you. The Spontaneous Healing of Belief is written with one purpose in mind: to share an empowering message of hope and possibility in a world where we are often led to feel hopeless and powerless.
I have partnered with Hay House to get the word out about this inspirational new title. I hope you will enjoy it! For more information on this exciting new book and all of the related prizes and gifts from Hay House and their partners, please copy and paste the url below into your browser on April 2nd for a great offer. You'll only receive the free gifts on April 2nd.
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Here is an excerpt from the book:
- "If life-affirming beliefs do in fact have the power to reverse disease and heal our bodies, then we must ask ourselves an obvious question: How much damage do negative beliefs carry? How does the way we think about our age, for example, actually affect the way we grow older? What are the consequences of being bombarded with media messages that tell us we're sick rather than ones that celebrate our health? We need look no further than our friends, family, and the world around us to find the answers to these questions."
Overall, I have found this book to be very interesting and thought provoking. I have not read the entire book at this time due to time constraints, but with what I have read, I'm definitely going to finish it.
New Relationship-with-Self Information
A month's collection of new information added to Relationship-with-Self:If you would like to keep an "instant" update on the new material added, sign up for the relationship-with-self blog to stay informed.
Upcoming Features
Only relationship-with-self newsletter viewers have access to this information, so you are the first to know what's coming up!Here is a look into the future of relationship-with-self.....
- Three new e-books; two on communication (thought/self-talk control and dealing with relationship conflict) and the other on your childhood.
- Information on how to "Improve your Patience."
- An article on the "Importance of Attitude."
- How to add humor into your daily living. (How to laugh at yourself.)
- How to control your gossiping and why this is important.
- How to deal with guilt.
- How to take something bad that has happened to you and turn it into something good!
- How to control your "complaining" and discover what this does to your psyche.
- Tips for living on a frugal income and how to make the best of this experience.
- How to accept your flaws for what they are.
- Tips for letting go of the "control freak" in you.
- Learn about the beauty of gratitude.
- An article about how your thoughts can impact your mental, physical, and emotional well-being.
Stay tuned for so much more....
Until next time.. Go out and be Yourself! And of course, Make loving yourself a priority!
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